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Resources

The following Parenting Apart booklets are now available to view online or download for free.

Information for Adults

Research tells us that children thrive with warm, reliable, co-operative parenting – whether parents live together or live apart. We also know that there can sometimes be particular challenges for separated parents.

This information will give you some ideas about how you and your children’s other parent can put your children first and move forward positively.

Information for Young People and Children

Children and Young People often find that there are a lot of changes to cope with when their parents decide to separate. Here are some ideas that might be helpful.
Messages for Young People Messages for Children

Messages for Young People

Messages for Children

Messages from Children about Separation and Divorce

Children’s views on how to help them through the process of separation and divorce, backed up by research findings, are here.
What Young People Say    

What Most Children Say

   

Other books for parents and children that might be helpful

There are many excellent resources available for parents and children of all ages who are experiencing divorce and separation. The following are offered as a place to start looking.

 

Books for Parents

  • Breaking Up without Falling Apart: The Essential Guide to Separation and Divorce in Scotland by Anne Hall Dick, 2011. Available online A really useful, readable guide about the process of separating in Scotland.
  • Getting Your Children Through Divorce: A Parent’s Guide to Separation by Anne Hooper, 2005.
    A classic UK book offering advice, explanations, strategies and insights.
  • Helping Children Cope with Divorce by Teyber, 2001
    Advice for separating parents on what they can do to help their children successfully adjust to separation.
  • How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk by Faber & Mazlish, 2001
    How to build successful relationships with children within families, and how to manage family conflicts effectively.
  • Mom's House, Dad’s House by Isolina Ricci, 1997
    This book focuses on the experience of parents going through the divorce process, using helpful exercises and self-assessments.
  • Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents can raise Happy and Secure Kids by Christina McGhee, 2011.
    Practical advice on how to help children adjust and thrive during and after separation and divorce by a renowned US Divorce coach.
  • The Guide for Separated Parents: Putting Children First by Karen & Nick Woodall, 2009
    A practical and reassuring guide for separating parents on how to work towards co-operative parenting, written by UK authors.
  • The Truth about Children and Divorce by Robert Emery, 2006
    This book combines research and practical experience to help parents work through the practicalities and feelings that arise through separation.

Books for Children

  • It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear by Vicki Lansky, 1998
    This is a 'read together' book for parents and young children (3 to 7 years) during divorce that helps to explain words and feelings.
  • Dinosaur's Divorce by Marc Brown and Laurie Krasny Brown, 1988
    For children aged 4 to 8 years, this book uses cartoon dinosaur characters to cover topics such as why parents divorce, what will happen to me, living in two homes.
  • The Huge Bag of Worries by Ironside and Rodgers, 2011
    A popular story book for younger children about a little girl who finds she is carrying an ever growing 'bag of worries'. She finds there are lots of different ways of dealing with or sharing worries.
  • Two of Everything by Babette Cole, 2000
    This is a ‘funny’ book for children, from 6 to 12 years, that tells the story of parents being ‘unmarried’.
  • When Mom and Dad Separate by Marge Heegaard, 1991
    A workbook for children (5 to 12 years) to work out their feelings about separation and divorce.
  • The Suitcase Kid by Jacqueline Wilson, 2006
    This is a well told story about a girl and her rabbit adjusting to life being a kid with divorced parents. For ages 8 to teens.
  • It’s an Aardvark eat Turtle World by Paula Danzinger, 2007
    An entertaining read about two teenagers who were best friends and become sisters after their parents fall in love, for children 10 to 12 years.
  • Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids by Isolina Ricci, 2006
    Designed for children 10 years and older, this book helps children to learn about how their family is changing and develop important life skills.
  • It’s not the End of the World by Judy Blume, 2011
    This is a story about divorce and its impact on family life, from a teenage perspective. Written with insight, sensitivity and honesty for ages 10 to teens.
  • What in the World Do You Do When Your Parents Divorce?: A Survival Guide for Kids by Kent Winchester and Roberta Beyer, 2002. Written to and for kids, in a simple question-and-answer format, this book is a valuable tool for helping children cope with separation.