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There is no point in forcing yourself to do something if you don’t want to, or if you are doing it for the sake of other people. You have to want it for yourself – Kathleen Campbell
I got back in brief contact with my father through email, but it was exactly that – brief. He and my mum split not long after I was born and, by the time I was about five, he had completely cut himself out. I also found out that I had a rare, inherited condition that…
Read MoreFamily Justice and Dispute Resolution: Insights from North America – Marta M Henderson
Tuesday 19 March 2019 saw the gathering of various professionals working with separated/separating families in Scotland for an outstanding presentation by the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC). The event was primarily attended by family law solicitors and family mediators but other stakeholders were also represented in the audience, such as representatives from Scottish…
Read MoreCounselling can help if life is too much – Fiona Cook
Our current world is confusing, stressful and uncertain, with people generally concerned for their future. We find both our mental wellbeing and physical health can be affected. There is a need in this turmoil to care for ourselves and seek a balanced body and mind connection. Easier said than done, but we know that secure…
Read MoreRosanne Cubitt: Enduring conflict more upsetting for kids than a well managed separation
January is a time of year when many people who have realised that their relationship is over, start the process of leaving their partner. They might have been thinking of divorcing for a while, but they wait until after Christmas so that their family can enjoy the holidays. Sometimes the strains of the festive season…
Read MoreRelational Health in 2019
As we enter a New Year many of us will have made resolutions. Gym memberships soar as we endeavour to work off the excess of Christmas and become physically healthier. But what of our of relational health? Just as the excess of Christmas might affect physical wellbeing, it can also affect mental wellbeing. The commercialism…
Read MoreThe Charity for Civil Servants
The Charity for Civil Servants has been working in partnership with Relationships Scotland for several years, providing access to relationship counselling throughout Scotland. We work with individuals and couples to identify the best options available to suit your needs. If you are a Civil Servant, past or present or you work for an organisation sponsored…
Read MoreGiving Children and Young People a Voice when Parents Separate – How Mediation can Help
Since the 1990s a noticeable shift within Scottish culture has occurred – it is now expected that children’s opinions will be sought and considered on a wide range of issues. The UN Convention on the Rights of the Child states that children who are capable of forming a view have a right to express those…
Read MoreSupporting developments in Family Mediation – with our neighbours!
I was delighted to be invited to attend the launch of an exciting new family mediation research initiative in South County Dublin in May this year, alongside the Canadian Ambassador to Ireland, Kevin Vickers. The Family Mediation Project is offering means-tested family mediation to parents, grandparents and their children in their communities. The innovative process…
Read MoreA future for European collaboration? Learning how best to help children whose parents are in dispute
As the sole representative from Scotland at an international consultation event on modern family justice I was both intrigued and excited to be heading to Windsor Castle for 24 hours on 12th February. Relate and the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC) hosted a discussion for 30 ‘experts in the field’, from lawyers to…
Read MoreFor the Sake of the Kids
Children should be supported to keep in touch with both parents after separation, whenever it is safe and possible for them to do so, says Stuart Valentine, Chief Executive of Relationships Scotland (This article originally appeared in the Scotsman) Bringing up children is one of the toughest challenges anyone can face. Even with the well-intentioned…
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