It has been a long few months, but thankfully things are starting to calm down and there is more time to think about life and how to make the most of it. My relationship with Sara has moved forward after our troubled times and it’s good to know that however hard things seem, love and commitment across time and cultural differences can survive awful experiences.

The reality of life is such that we won’t be able to be together in the same place in any permanent sense for some time to come, but at least we have a real sense of knowing how we feel about each other and what really matters to us. Sometimes in life, it’s the challenges that really define us, and that is certainly the case here.

I think we have learned a lot about each other individually and how we are as a couple. Ironically, that simply wouldn’t have happened without my dad dying, as I was very much caught up with being a carer and constantly, albeit subconsciously, thinking about him.

So now we are in a position to consider the future with one less person to think about, but someone who will never be forgotten: namely, Eric, my late father. I guess the real learning for me is the need to focus on the important things in life and not get lost in the distractions that can take us away from what really matters.


  1. Julie-Ann Murphy on June 6, 2012 at 8:27 pm

    It’s good to hear things are perhaps a little clearer now. Sorry for your loss.
    Thanks for writing so honestly and openly too. I hope it helps others.

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